Can you make people fall in love? Twenty years ago, psychologists believed they may have done just that. In their experiment, psychologists had study participants — one heterosexual man and one heterosexual woman — sit face to face and answer 36 increasingly personal questions and then stare silently into each other's eyes for four minutes. Six months later, two of the study participants were married.
"Hoping there was a way to love smarter," writer Mandy Len Catron explored this question in her popular New York Times article, "To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This," where she chronicles her own experience simulating the experiment and that she did, in fact, fall in love with her partner.
In her TED Talk, Catron explains that the questions, while they may not be entirely responsible for her falling in love, do provide an efficient way for getting to know someone quickly, generating trust, and creating intimacy.
But, more importantly, she says that falling in love is far from the whole story when it comes to loving someone and explains what comes next.