When you are in love, you want your partner to connect with all those people who are important in your life. You want your partner also to spend time with them. You want to show-off them to your friends and family. You bring out the person you love in public. Whereas, in lust, you want them to be a deep secret and don’t want them to mingle with your friends.
When you use ‘we’ language than ‘I’, it is love. Lives are entwined when you are in love and people don’t see each other as separate individuals anymore. You see yourselves as a couple. Lives overlap and more mutuality comes in. In lust, you are one person and your partner is another, there is no ‘we’.
You want to tell it all to your partner in love. What you tell about yourself to the other person also matters. Love makes us reveal extensive information about ourselves. You want to tell about your dreams, goals, pasts, future, confidential info, all secrets. In lust, you don’t go deep into the core about yourself.
When you are in love, what one person wants to do, influences the other person in meaningful and strong ways. In case something happens in your family or to you, you want to go to that person for assistance, for help. You would want to tell your partner about it first and seek guidance. You want to share good and the bad news both.