While constantly critiquing inconsequential issues like cucumber-slicing technique is problematic, so too is keeping mum about things that really matter, like your emotions when your partner says or does something that upsets you.
But bottling up your emotions likely means the problem will happen again, creating pent-up negative feelings and even resentment. Even if you think your partner knows you well enough to pick up on how you're feeling, it's not their job to play psychic medium, relationship coach David Bennett of Double Trust Dating previously told INSIDER.
"In strong relationships, partners are honest and assertive about expressing their needs, and their partners are the same way," Bennett said.
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The next time you don't feel quite right about something in your relationship, speak up about it rather than waiting for your partner to come to you.