A dating coach reviewed a 40-year-old's Hinge profile and said to skip the photo of her in a unicorn costume

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Julia NaftulinMay 22, 2023, 16:21 IST
A dating coach reviewed a 40-year-old's Hinge profile and said to skip the photo of her in a unicorn costume
<p class="ingestion featured-caption">Jennifer submitted her Hinge profile as part of Insider's Dating App Clinic.Insider</p><ul class="summary-list"><li>Jennifer submitted her Hinge profile for review by an expert as part of <a href="https://www.insider.com/category/dating-app-clinic" rel>Insider's Dating App Clinic</a>.</li><li>Expert Amy Nobile suggested 40-year-old Jennifer take out the costume photo and dedicate a bit more time to swiping.</li></ul><p>Jennifer, a 40-year-old using Hinge to date, submitted her profile for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts how to revamp your dating profiles to increase your chances of finding a match.</p><p>After many years of singledom, Jennifer said she's looking to date men, and is seeking someone with emotional intelligence who is compassionate and funny. She said her deal breakers are drug use and smoking and someone who is pretentious or overly negative and critical.</p><p>"I am very adventurous, even a bit goofy and childlike at times. As a single parent, I value my daughter, my free time, and my experiences. Money, material things, and appearances mean virtually nothing to me," Jennifer told Insider.</p><p>She also said she considers herself to be open, honest, and extremely self-reliant.</p><p>Jennifer is looking for a long-term relationship in which she can share her life with someone. She said she thinks her profile photos accurately show what she looks like, but is unsure why she typically matches with men much older than her, or ones she doesn't find attractive.</p><p>Amy Nobile, founder of date-coaching service <a href="https://www.loveamy.co/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">Love, Amy</a>, told Insider how Jennifer could spruce up her dating profile to increase her chances of finding a match.</p>
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Nobile loved Jennifer's lead photo, saying it was "vibrant and striking."

Nobile loved Jennifer's lead photo, saying it was "vibrant and striking."
Jennifer submitted her Hinge profile as part of Insider's Dating App Clinic.Insider

Upon her initial scan of Jennifer's Hinge profile, Nobile said she was off to a great start.

She said that most of the photos Jennifer chose are clear and give a taste of her personality. Still, Nobile would love to see more action shots that show Jennifer's potential matches what she's like in person.

According to Nobile, singles commonly make the mistake of picking "just OK" photos. Setting up a dating-profile photoshoot with a friend and being a bit more intentional about crafting your profile can help, she said.

Nobile also loved how Jennifer filled in this prompt.

Nobile also loved how Jennifer filled in this prompt.
Jennifer wrote endearing responses to Hinge's built-in prompts, Nobile said.Insider

"This really shows us that she's a warm, thoughtful, and non-judgmental human," Nobile told Insider.

Nobile also approved of the photo Jennifer included here with her daughter, saying it was a "clear and attractive" choice.

Since Jennifer wants to find a long-term relationship, Nobile suggested she add a final line like, "I'm excited to find my partner and launch the next chapter!"

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Jennifer should consider swapping out this unicorn-head photo, Nobile said.

Jennifer should consider swapping out this unicorn-head photo, Nobile said.
Jennifer said she's adventurous and can be goofy and child-like at times.Insider

"Clearly, her body is fantastic, but I'd rather see her real face, even if in costume," Nobile said.

Nobile suggested switching out this prompt with a more lighthearted one.

Nobile suggested switching out this prompt with a more lighthearted one.
Nobile tells her clients to avoid prompts the lean into negativity.Insider

According to Nobile, focusing on what you don't like or want in your profile can take the fun and optimistic energy out of dating.

"This prompt emits negative energy, and she's clearly more positive of a person," Nobile said.

Instead of sharing what she doesn't want in a partner, Jennifer could use a prompt like "Two truths and a lie" to share more details about her life and her interests, Nobile said.

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Jennifer nailed this prompt, Nobile said.

Jennifer nailed this prompt, Nobile said.
Nobile loved how Jennifer answered this prompt.Insider

According to Nobile, Jennifer's response here is the perfect mixture of "self-
deprecating and sweetly dorky."

Here, Jennifer could benefit from a clearer, more candid shot, Nobile said.

Here, Jennifer could benefit from a clearer, more candid shot, Nobile said.
Show off your hobbies and how you spend your free time in your photos, Nobile said.Insider

Nobile suggested adding an action shot where Jennifer is doing an activity she enjoys, like hiking, biking, or playing with her dog, because it can add visual interest to her profile.

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Finally, Jennifer can tweak her swiping strategy to find better matches.

Finally, Jennifer can tweak her swiping strategy to find better matches.
Practice starting conversations with men while you're out and about, Nobile said.Insider

Since Jennifer is concerned about attracting the wrong men for her, Nobile suggested she download the dating app Bumble to widen her dating pool.

If she's not already, Jennifer should also set aside 45 minutes each day to swipe on her apps, Nobile said.

"It's a numbers game, so she's probably not swiping and chatting enough," to get the matches she desires, Nobile said.

Finally, Jennifer should consider spending time in places where men she's interested in dating hang out, like the dog park, gym, or even the Apple Store.

Though it can feel scary, sparking conversations with men in these spaces can create new opportunities for connection and build Jennifer's overall dating confidence, according to Nobile.

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