5 lessons on jealousy and romance that couples can learn from their friends in non-monogamous relationships
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- About one in five Americans have engaged in some sort of consensual non-monogamy, or CNM, in their lifetimes - it's about as common as owning a cat, researchers say.
- The ways that CNM emphasizes communication can be instructive for singles as well as people in other kinds of relationships.
- The process of differentiation - or knowing who you are and how you're different from your partner - is another big factor in CNM that can help just about everyone.
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February is the season for celebrating romance. But amid all the chocolates, candlelit dinners, and diamond rings, here's one image of idealized love you're unlikely to see: an adoring husband kissing his wife goodbye as she heads out for a romantic date with her boyfriend.
According to a growing body of preliminary but compelling science, that's a shame. Not only is consensual non-monogamy, or CNM, more common and less dysfunctional than stereotypes suggest, but the particular necessities of the arrangement - like staggeringly candid communication - can teach a thing or two to monogamous mates.