TikTokers are sharing all the reasons they love not having children: 'All my money is MY money'

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TikTokers are sharing all the reasons they love not having children: 'All my money is MY money'
Screenshot of a TikToker who said she couldn't imagine spending her 30th birthday in Kenya if she had children, and a stock image of a woman stretching her arms at sunset.TikTok/@clementinelarue, Getty Images
  • New Zealand influencer Danni Duncan asked her TikTok fans what they loved about not having children.
  • She asked because there were people telling her "how lonely and sad" her life is without kids.
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The freedom to wake up whenever they pleased. More money for themselves. Peace and quiet.

These are just some of the reasons people have said they love about being child-free in more than 100 TikTok duets inspired by the New Zealand influencer Danni Duncan.

"If you're over 30 and don't have children, I want you to duet this and tell me what you love about not having children," she asked her followers in March, in a TikTok which has since gotten 700,000 views.

"Because I'm still reaching a lot of moms with kids, and misogynistic men, that keep telling me how lonely and sad my life is."

@danni___duncan Flipping the narrative #childfreebychoice #childfreetiktok #childfreemillennial ♬ original sound - Danni Duncan

Immediately, people responded — many of whom also tagged #childfreebychoice, a hashtag which has drawn a collective 170.3 million views on the platform.

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"30th birthday on the coast of Kenya in the most beautiful relaxing house. Can't imagine this being possible/peaceful if I had kids!" @clementinelarue posted while showing a view of the interiors of a large, airy home.

@clementinelarue #duet with @danni___duncan #childlessmillenial #kenya #30 ♬ original sound - Danni Duncan

For @rubysunset20, the appeal of not having children was the ability to just pack up and head off for a vacation anytime she wanted.

"I can leave at almost any moment and stay in a private pool suite," read the text on her post.

@rubysunset20 #duet with @danni___duncan there are some major perks #over30 #nokids #minivacation ♬ original sound - Danni Duncan

As for @trashcaptain, it was about embracing financial freedom. "All my money is MY money. I can buy what I want. Go where I want. And finally bout to buy a house!" they said, while showing a view of their room filled with anime merchandise.

Duncan is a 32-year-old Christchurch-based influencer who hopes to normalize the idea that it's okay when women choose not to have children.

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Despite what people think, she does not dislike parents or children, she told the New Zealand news outlet Stuff earlier this month.

"I think the more that we talk about it openly, as this is something people are doing, the more other people will feel safe talking about it ... it's comforting to know there's a whole bunch of us," she told the outlet.

She did not immediately respond to Insider's request for comment.

But she did let her TikTok fans know how pleasantly surprised she was by all the responses to her video.

"I'm so sorry if you've stitched/dueted and I haven't seen. I didn't anticipate how many would love to you!!!!" she wrote in the comments of her original video.

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