How to deal with 7 awkward confrontations at work

Some people work better at messy desks!

Jamie Hodari, the CEO of luxury coworking space company Industrious, notes that it's unreasonable to gripe about your coworkers' space.

"Your office or desk is your private space and I'm a firm believer that messy people should have the right to a messy desk," Hodari says. "In fact, there's some evidence that a cluttered desk is often an essential part of keeping a messy person productive. So if your office doesn't have cubicles, set up an obstruction so that you don't have to look at their messy desk when you're sitting at your computer. If you try to force them to be neater, be prepared for an eight month struggle that ends in the same arrangement of used coffee cups and useless papers everywhere."

Kerr says that if your workplace is truly gross, you can make clean up fun by asking your manager to set up brief cleaning times and offering a prize for whoever unearths the most bizarre, long lost "artifact."

Are your colleague's hair-raising escapades causing you grief?

Kerr notes that while public hair brushing definitely bothers people, it's not as sensitive as loud eating or bad breath.

"You might try some humor with this one, since it's not as sensitive a topic as others, for example, you could compliment on how fabulous their hair always looks and now you understand why!" Kerr says.

Michel suggests a taking direct approach instead of splitting hairs.

"The discussion is also a good time to ask them if there's anything you do they find annoying," Michel says. "That way, you can both address your quirks to create a better work environment."

It's hard to address this difficult topic and come out smelling like a rose.

Kerr admits that he once drew straws with a coworker to determine who would have to be the person to tell a third coworker that their excessive body odor was unbearable.

"Take them somewhere private, and put the discussion into context by reminding them that when a group of people work together day in and day out in a closed office odors can become a sensitive topic for many people, whether it's the excessive use of perfume or overly smelly foods," Kerr says. "Then, segue into what you want to discuss with them specifically and stress how difficult it is for you to broach this subject, and that you hope they won't take it personally or that it won't affect your relationship."

TINYinstitute employee engagement researcher and managing editor Dora Wang notes that approaching your manager might be the best solution. You're not trying to get anyone in trouble, but calling in the superiors might minimize discomfort.

"A manager can have a private conversation that's directed at coaching the employee to be more successful without personal judgment," Wang says. "It's still something to be approached carefully, and managers should be careful to put their advice in the context of general office policy and not individual preferences, but it's better and more comfortable for everyone involved."

Some people take the idea of thinking out loud way too far. Still, before you ask your neighbors to turn down the volume, Wang says to make sure you're not about to stifle your office's good vibes.

"Banning chatter and creating an atmosphere of sepulchral silence can kill the energy in an office," Wang says. "It's up to leadership to establish good habits for the office community and remind people to be respectful and mindful of the people around them."

Meanwhile, Hodari admits that he is that loud coworker that can be heard across the workplace.

"I have some bad news: resistance is futile," Hodari says. "If a coworker is being loud you can politely ask them to quiet down, which is a legitimate, fair request, and unless the person is a sociopath, it will work. At least for 15 minutes. But then, in much the same way as water seeks its own level, their voice will creep back to its obnoxious, disruptive level. All I can recommend is earphones. Most offices have an unspoken rule: headphones in equal do not disturb. I also recommend that you ask them out for a drink, since loud people, while annoying to work next to, often make the best friends."

Do you feel plagued by the office chatter bug? Michel says that this issue may arise when colleagues have different working styles.

"If you need quiet or are easily distracted by people talking, it's up to you to take control of your situation so you can focus," Michel says. "Listening to music or wearing noise cancelling headphones gives you the peace you need."

Wang says that at TINYPulse, they use pirate flags to signal when they need to hunker down and focus.

"It's a quick, nonverbal way to communicate your needs that we all understand, so no one has to get interrupted just to explain that they can't be interrupted," Wang says. "What's even better is that it keeps the message from feeling too personal. No one is saying, 'I don't want to talk to you'; we're saying, 'I need to block out distractions from my work.'"