Michelle Obama says Barack Obama's 'candor and certainty' in the early days of their courtship was 'sexy as hell'

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Michelle Obama says Barack Obama's 'candor and certainty' in the early days of their courtship was 'sexy as hell'
Barack and Michelle Obama in 2008.Jae C. Hong/AP
  • Michelle Obama reflects on her relationship with Barack Obama in her new book, "The Light We Carry."
  • She writes that his "candor and certainty" during their courtship was "sexy as hell."
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In her new book, "The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times," Michelle Obama reflects on her 30-year marriage to former President Barack Obama, whom she calls "my truest love and my life's greatest disrupter."

Part self-help, part memoir, "The Light We Carry" features the former first lady's musings on her post-White House life, strategies for navigating uncertain times, and advice on building meaningful relationships.

Michelle writes that the early days of her courtship with Barack were devoid of "the standard cat-and-mouse romantic gamesmanship."

"He was uninterested in playing around. Instead, he took the guesswork right out of it," she wrote. "He put his feelings on the table and left them there, as if to say, Here's my interest. Here's my respect. This is my starting point. We can only go forward from here. This mix of candor and certainty was, I have to admit, flattering and refreshing. It was also sexy as hell."

Michelle Obama says Barack Obama's 'candor and certainty' in the early days of their courtship was 'sexy as hell'
In "The Light We Carry," Michelle Obama calls her husband "my truest love and my life's greatest disrupter."The Washington Post/Getty Images

Michelle also draws on her own experience to share pieces of relationship advice, such as the importance of compromise and adaptability in long-term partnerships.

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"A partnership doesn't actually change who you are, even as it challenges you to be accommodating of another person's needs," she wrote. "Just as Barack hasn't changed much in the 33 years since we met, neither have I."

She continued, "The change is in what's between us, the million small adjustments, compromises, and sacrifices we've each made in order to accommodate the close presence of the other, this hybrid energy of him and me together — us two — now seasoned and battle-tested over decades."

Michelle says that while she's done her best to speak openly and honestly about the "unpolished" parts of her relationship with Barack, "some seem to prefer the facade."

"My personal feeling about this remains unchanged, and I think it's true of people in general: We only hurt ourselves when we hide our realness away," she wrote.

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