I lost my job as an NYC public school teacher for having a provocative past. Here's how I turned the humiliating experience into a flourishing freelance career.
Melissa Petrois a freelance writer who lives with her husband and two children in New York City.
- In 2010, Petro lost her job as an elementary school teacher after months of negative press coverage attacking her for past experiences in the sex industry.
- Instead of giving into what she says was the most humiliating experience of her life, Petro took the loss of her teaching career as a lesson, and devoted herself to pursuing the career she'd always dreamed about — being a writer.
- She leaned on people who cared about her for advice and support, cut back on expenses, and hustled her way from earning under $20,000 to close to $60,000 a year.
- Above all, Petro found ways to turn her biggest liability into an asset, and used her story as an opportunity to get published on high profile platforms and gain
People often fantasize about giving up their daily grind to become a
For as long as I could remember, I had dreams of becoming a writer. Still, in college, I pursued what I felt was a more practical degree. I earned a BA in sociology and began a career in social services, working with economically disadvantaged women and girls. Coming from an economically disadvantaged background myself, I worked on and off in the sex industry to afford my education.I wrote about my experiences in the sex industry, and harbored ambitions to write a memoir. But even after earning an MFA in creative nonfiction from the New School, writing felt like a somewhat embarrassing — and expensive — hobby. I pursued a second master's degree, this time in childhood education, to qualify for a "real" job: teaching art and writing at a public elementary school in the South Bronx.
I would've never quit my full-time job — and given up the salary and benefits — had I not been forced to do soIn 2010, a reporter from the New York Post took an interest in a 900-word essay I wrote for the Huffington Post in which I talked candidly about a brief period in my life (in grad school) when I traded sex for cash. Some weeks after my essay ran, the tabloid plastered my picture on its cover under an intentionally shocking headline: "Bronx Teacher Admits: I'm an Ex Hooker."
My employer at the time, the New York City Department of Education, immediately yanked me from the classroom and put me in reassignment, also known as the "rubber room." After months of relentless negative press coverage, I resigned.It was humiliating, but in retrospect, I'm better off for it. Here's how I turned the worst thing that's ever happened to me into a flourishing freelance career.
I let my loss wake me upIn a lecture to Stanford Graduate School of Business students, Oprah Winfrey argued there is no such thing as failure; Instead, she says, the purpose of any failure or loss is to move you in another, better direction. As Oprah put it: "The losses are there to wake you up." While the gist of this has always been a guiding principle of mine, I had never lived through something so seismic as the loss of my teaching career.
For months, news of my reassignment was everywhere. CNN ran the story as "breaking news." CBS published a slideshow of my Facebook photos. Even then-New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg weighed in on the matter, condemning my conduct and suggesting what I'd done was somehow criminal.
Beyond the public humiliation, there were practical matters to consider. Financially, I had no savings or family to fall back on. I was scared.Initially, I applied for positions similar to the one I'd lost — teaching jobs, daycare centers, nannying, as well as work in social services. Interviews pretty much ended just as soon as my potential employer would ask, "Why did you leave your last job?" I seemed like no one wanted to associate themselves with a woman dubbed the "hooker teacher."
In moments like these, there's a temptation to panic. Instead, as Oprah said: "Get still and ask yourself, 'what is the next right move?'"
My situation began to improve when I stopped applying for jobs I didn't really want anyway and surrendered to reality.
I turned to people I knew would have my backWhen the whole situation first started, I sent SOS emails to nearly everyone I knew, asking for advice and assistance. I had a fair number of contacts from grad school and within the literary community. Many expressed outrage at what was happening to me, and wanted to help.
I did data entry for $10 an hour at a prestigious literary journal. I scored a gig teaching memoir-writing, and then another. And I worked for free, teaching writing workshops to marginalized communities including drug users, survivors of sexual exploitation, and LGBTQ teens. I applied for grants, and eventually the volunteer work started to pay.I also continued to write, pitch, and publish my writing as much as I could.
I turned my biggest liability into an asset
A decade later, I've written on a variety of topics: a literary festival in Sri Lanka, a Syrian activist who survived arbitrary detention, and a memorial project to honor bicyclists killed in traffic accidents, to name a few.But initially, I had one story that people wanted to hear about and so I sold it. I sold it again, and again, and again, and again. In some ways, you might say that here, right now, I am selling it again. It's a fresh angle (humiliating scandal) on an evergreen topic (how to make it as a freelancer). I learned about things like story angles and other aspects of craft from my editors. Sure, my MFA was an enriching experience, but I wouldn't say it prepared me at all for the business of
Besides the bit about brushing off failure, this is my number one word of advice to new writers: If you offer an editor a story that only you can tell, they will help you tell it.
I lowered my expensesMy first year as a freelance writer, I made less than $20,000. I lived on this, plus unemployment, plus credit cards. It was rough.
To lower my expenses, I moved back in with an on-again, off-again boyfriend. The apartment was in my name, and he eventually moved out, leaving me with a super cheap living situation. I saved money in other ways as well. Rather than taking the subway, I'd walk from one gig to the next. I washed my clothes by hand in the bathtub. I skipped meals. I don't recommend any of this to anyone. If you want to transition from full-time work to freelancing, have some savings, if you can. Otherwise, be prepared to make sacrifices.
I hustled harder than ever
When you think freelancer, you might picture Carrie Bradshaw scribbling down her most intimate thoughts on life and love, in between extravagant shopping trips and lunch dates with the girls. Especially in a slow economy, some people hear freelancer and think "unemployed."In truth, freelancing is hard work.
You can earn a decent income from writing alone if you have the time and ability to hustle, or once you have some experience. The year before I got married and became pregnant, I think I made around $60,000 — just under what I'd earned as a public school teacher. This year, I'll make about half that, in only a quarter of the time.Over a decade later, I still miss public school teaching. I loved my profession and I sometimes wish I had a "real" job — and then I remember: I do.
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