A 92-year-old grandma has blown up on TikTok with a list of rules for her funeral, including 'get drunk' and 'cry but not too much'

A 92-year-old grandma has blown up on TikTok with a list of rules for her funeral, including 'get drunk' and 'cry but not too much'
Lillian Droniak has 4.3 million TikTok followers.Lillian Droniak via TikTok and Instagram.
  • 92-year-old Lillian Droniak went viral on TikTok for sharing a list of rules for her future funeral.
  • The rules instructed attendees to "get drunk" after the ceremony and not cry "too much."

Lillian Droniak, a 92-year-old woman who posts frequently on TikTok, has gone viral with a video where she lists three rules she wants people to follow at her funeral one day.

On TikTok, Droniak, who lives in Shelton, Connecticut, refers to herself as "Grandma Droniak," and has 4.1 million followers. On March 30, the TikToker, who has five grandchildren and two great-grandchildren, filmed herself in front of text that read, "rules at my funeral." The rules read, "cry but not too much," "bertha isn't invited," and "get drunk afterward."

The video now has 31 million views and is one of Droniak's most viewed on the platform.

@grandma_droniak it wont be any time soon but dont forget it #funeral #grandma #rules #dontcry #funeralservices #wake #greenscreen ♬ original sound - grandma_droniak

Droniak explained why she didn't want guests to cry too much, saying, "Don't make a fool of yourself." She also told them to get drunk, adding, "Take a shot for me."

However, the majority of comments under the video related to her second rule, and asked for more information about "Bertha," whom Droniak insisted should not be invited to the funeral, saying, "Don't let her in."


On April 19, Droniak posted a follow-up video saying she "cut Bertha out of my life" a long time ago. She said this was because Bertha was "trying to talk to my husband" and tried to "copy off whatever I wore."

She added, "If she comes to my funeral, kick her out because I don't need her."

@grandma_droniak Reply to @ascensionsbyandrea ♬ original sound - grandma_droniak

Droniak told Insider that Bertha is a real person whom she "used to be friends with." (Insider was unable to independently verify the identity of an individual with the name Bertha who is associated with Droniak.)

Overall, Droniak said the main aim of her TikTok was to open up a "lighthearted" conversation about death on her platform. "It doesn't need to be scary or taboo. It helps you live life better if you're not afraid," she said.

@grandma_droniak today is my birthday you better tell me happy birthday #birthday #grandma #birthdayparty #birthdaygirl #birthdaybash #birthdaydress ♬ Birthday - Anne-Marie

"I joke about death because it will happen to all of us, as scary as that is," she told Insider, adding that we "might as well laugh about it."


Droniak posts comedic videos on TikTok every few days, often giving life advice to her followers. She told Insider that she films a lot of these videos herself, but one of her grandsons, Kevin Droniak, who also posts on the app, helped her set up her account and sometimes assists with filming.

Droniak is one of many people of retirement age on TikTok who have developed a large following. According to CBS, they are sometimes known as "granfluencers," and are popular in part because they "inspire" young people, who are the biggest users of TikTok.

@grandma_droniak i age like fine wine and dont forget it #aged #grandma #missedcall #glowup #oldphoto #1950s ♬ Lost Souls - lizok

The 92-year-old told Insider she has a mixture of younger followers and older ones who are closer to her own age.

During her time spent interacting with and advising young adults and teenagers on TikTok, she said the main thing she has learned is that younger people are, "Crazier than me when I was at that age."

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