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How to apologize if you accidentally said something at work that's racist, sexist, or offensive
How to apologize if you accidentally said something at work that's racist, sexist, or offensive
Rachel PremackJul 30, 2018, 22:55 IST
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What is a microaggression? It's an unconscious expression of racism or sexism.
It's important to know how to apologize if you've made a microaggressive comment in the workplace.
The most important thing to know when saying sorry: Apologize for your actions being offensive, not for the other person feeling offended.
You might not know what a microaggression is, but you've probably heard at least one before.
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Microaggressions are unconscious expressions of racism or sexism. They come out in seemingly innocuous comments or actions by people who might be well-intentioned.
Think of asking a person of color where they're really from, or the "universal phenomenon" of men interrupting women.
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Everyone holds unconscious beliefs about race, ethnicity, gender, weight, religion, and many other characteristics, according to the University of California, San Francisco. So while you might believe yourself to be totally rid of problematic opinions, there might come a time where you accidentally say a microaggression.
Here's how to apologize for saying an offensive comment in the workplace.
As soon as you recognize that whatever came out of your mouth was problematic, apologize right away, said University of California, Hastings College of the Law distinguished professor Joan Williams.
Williams advised saying the following: "Wow, I just heard what I said. I apologize."
Don't say "Sorry I offended you"
"I'm sorry that I offended you, but that wasn't my intent."
Apologizing for offending someone is an attempt to validate your own comment by implying that the other person just reacted poorly, Rivera told Business Insider.
It's also a way to brush off any allegations that you did something wrong.
Instead, recognize the implicit bias in your remark
"The apology should be earnest and include an awareness that you engaged in microaggressive behavior," Rivera told Business Insider.
So, if you realize you made a blunder by complimenting a non-white coworker who was born in America on their English skills, you can try: "I'm sorry for what I just said. That was totally out of line, and based off the false impression that you were not born in America. My apologies again."
Move on
There's no need to continue to dwell on it right after you've said it, especially if it's in front of other people, Williams said.
But you may want to follow up later with the person with an additional apology if it seems appropriate.
Keep educating yourself
Rivera said the best way to move on from saying a microaggression is to have "open communication about diversity and inclusion."
That could involve setting up a diversity task force within your company, or keeping educated by reading publications, like Everyday Feminism or Mic, that focus on diverse perspectives and activism.