5 tips for making a long-distance relationship work, according to relationship experts

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5 tips for making a long-distance relationship work, according to relationship experts

5 tips for making a long-distance relationship work, according to relationship experts
2. Talk (on the phone) about it

You need to give your partner (and self) feedback about what's working and what isn't, Smith said. And importantly, you should pick up the phone to have these conversations — texting is not the same as a conversation, Headlee advised. (Plus, what does the heart emoji have on saying, 'I love you?')

"The key to making a LDR work is good communication, and that means phone calls," she continued. "Emails are not a replacement for the human voice (extensive research shows that it's the voice that humanizes us, and makes us feel empathy for another). So, call."

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5 tips for making a long-distance relationship work, according to relationship experts

5 tips for making a long-distance relationship work, according to relationship experts
4. Find other ways to feel connected

Like any relationship, a good LDR takes a heaping dose of compromise and creativity. One way is to transform activities you would normally do physically together into something that can bridge the gap. "Try watching movies together while on the phone, reading the same books, or binging on the same shows. That will build a feeling of connecting and shared experiences," Headlee wrote.

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5 tips for making a long-distance relationship work, according to relationship experts

5. Take some space

Arguably the most important component of any healthy relationship is taking time to focus on your own growth, success, and happiness.

"Self-care and personal development will make you a better person and partner — a major key in helping a long-distance relationship (and any relationship) work," Smith wrote. "Enroll in a course, make your health a priority, schedule time with friends, or pick up a good book that you've been meaning to read," she added.

Plus, expanding your own personal and professional life will make tough situations more bearable: "In the stretches when you're apart, you don't feel like your world has disappeared," Smith wrote.

Taking space to do your own thing also has the added perk of giving you something to report back to your partner about your time alone. While the temptation to be in constant contact — especially if you miss each other — is real, Smith recommends scheduling phone dates to talk every few days. "Letting a little life happen between your chats will elevate your conversation and give you more to share with each other."