During the course, Sandberg discusses an earlier conversation when she asked Grant about the amount of resilience she had. She desperately wanted to know if she had enough. But Grant replied that there isn't a fixed amount of resilience, or strength, someone has. It's a muscle you work on to build. I often wonder the same thing: Do I have enough inner strength to heal from the loss of my brother, my best friend? Grant's words, that strength is something a person can grow anytime, instilled hope in me. It's a skillset that we work on throughout our lives, Grant said. It's really about learning, what does it take for me to find strength in a tough situation? When my brother died, our community rallied around us for support, helping organize a reception after the funeral and visiting us for weeks after to make sure we had emotional support. I realized how lucky we were to have this. Things could have been much worse if we were left largely on our own. When Sandberg lost her husband, she couldn't imagine that her life could be any worse. Grant reminded her, however, that things could always be worse. Her husband could have had a heart attack while driving their kids. It never occurred to me that I could have lost all three of them in an instant, not just one. And actually the minute you say that you're like 'OK. I'm alright. Thank God my children are alive,' Sandberg said. Gratitude helps put even the most horrible situations in perspective. In the series, I learned about the term affective forecasting, which is when we predict how we'll feel in the future. Usually, we predict that our grief, depression, or anxiety will last forever. Sandberg recalled feeling this way. The trick is to challenge those beliefs by changing our inner dialogue. Change always and never with sometimes and lately, Grant suggests. These tricks are helpful on days when my grief flares up. Challenging your inner dialogue can help make the difficult moments less difficult. I want anyone going through hardship, anyone going through trauma to know, it will not always feel this bad, Sandberg said. Whether it's blaming ourselves for something we had no control over or going over past mistakes, trauma and grief can do a number on one's personal psyche. In order to combat this, Grant and Sandberg stress the importance of treating yourself with self-compassion. In other words, approach yourself with the same kindness you would show a friend. When Sandberg was struggling, Grant told her to write down three things every day that she accomplished, even if it was small things like crying less than normal in a meeting or making tea for herself. This habit, he said, can help boost your confidence. It is transformative, Sandberg said.Sandberg said she still writes down three things she is grateful for every night, and that stood out to me. It's been five years since she lost her husband, and still she has daily routines to help in her healing process. That's a sign of strength — she knows healing takes a lifetime, perhaps more — and she's taking the steps to ensure she's building strength daily. That showed me that I need to do the same, to build habits that help me grow. In addition to trying Sheryl's method, I'm going to try to read more on grief and the journey.I'm also going to revisit this course when I need a refresher. For me, the most useful part of the video may be the replay button.