Hillary Clinton says this is the most important personality trait a person can have
"She taught me that life isn't about what happens to you, it's about what you do with what happens to you. No matter how many times you get knocked down, you have to get back up and keep fighting for what you believe," Clinton wrote.
She also pointed to Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg's recent UC Berkeley commencement speech as a "fantastic" explainer on the topic.
During her speech, Sandberg outlined the three Ps that largely determine our ability to deal with setbacks:
- Personalization: whether you believe an event is your fault
- Pervasiveness: whether you believe an event will affect all areas of your life
- Permanence: how long you think the negative feelings will last
She spoke on how understanding them is helping her cope with the loss of her husband, Dave Goldberg, just over a year ago.
"This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us," Sandberg said about personalization. It took understanding this for Sandberg to accept that she couldn't have prevented her husband's death. "His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease. I was an economics major; how could I have?"