Willow Smith opens up about being polyamorous and why the concept of marriage 'irks' her

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Willow Smith opens up about being polyamorous and why the concept of marriage 'irks' her
Willow Smith discussing polyamory on "Red Table Talk."Red Table Talk/Facebook
  • Willow Smith opened up about being polyamorous on the latest episode of "Red Table Talk."
  • Smith said she was partly interested because she "was introduced to it through a nonsexual lens."
  • The 20-year-old star also said the problematic history of marriage "really irks" her.

Willow Smith opened about how she became polyamorous and why the problematic history of marriage frustrated her.

"With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that's what everyone around you says is the right thing to do," Smith said on the latest episode of "Red Table Talk" on Facebook Watch, which was released on Wednesday.

She added: "So I was like, 'How can I structure the way that I approach relationships with that in mind?' Also, doing research into polyamory, the main reason why divorces happen is infidelity."

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Smith was joined at the table by her cohosts Jada Pinkett Smith (her mother) and Adrienne Banfield-Norris (her maternal grandmother). On the episode, the three family members had a candid discussion about polyamory, which is defined as openly engaging in more than one romantic relationship at the same time.

Polyamory falls under the umbrella of ethical nonmonogamy, a dating practice in which partners can openly date multiple people without deceit or infidelity. There is no single way to engage in nonmonogamy, as relationship structures can include from throuples (composed of three people dating each other) and polycules (which involve four or more people dating each other).

Smith, who's the daughter of Pinkett Smith and Will Smith, said one of the reasons she was interested in ethical nonmonogamy was that she "was introduced to it through a nonsexual lens."

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"In my friend group, I'm the only polyamorous person, and I have the least sex out of all my friends," the 20-year-old star said in response to Banfield-Norris suggesting that people are gravitating toward polyamory because of sex.

Willow Smith opens up about being polyamorous and why the concept of marriage 'irks' her
Adrienne Banfield Norris, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Willow Smith discussing polyamory on "Red Table Talk."Red Table Talk/Facebook

According to Hailey Gill, a nonbinary fursuit designer who has been practicing polyamory for over 10 years, nonmonogamous dating can give people the freedom to love more than one person at once in an ethical way.

While common stereotypes about polyamorous relationships include being greedy or just wanting to have a lot of sex, poly people told Insider the relationships could go much deeper.

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"I wish people knew that polyamory is more than just for sex," Gill previously told Insider. "It's a way to bond and share your love with more than one person and to show everyone a caring partner."

Pinkett Smith said she was supportive of her daughter's decision to be polyamorous

"I was like, 'I totally get it,'" the 49-year-old actress said. "Wanting to set up your life in a way that you can have what it is that you want, I think that anything goes as long as the intentions are clear to everyone, more to yourself than anything."

The cohosts were also in agreement that whether a person practices monogamy or polyamory, it has to be a decision that they make for themselves.

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"That's the only part about marriage today and monogamy today that I think is antiquated, that monogamy has to be your choice," Pinkett Smith said. "It can't be because I'm told I'm supposed to do it this way. That, my dear, is deeply antiquated and no longer works."

Research suggests more people are considering different dating styles.

A study published by the Kinsey Institute in 2019 found 81% of survey respondents said they had fantasized about open relationships at least once in their lives.

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Willow Smith opens up about being polyamorous and why the concept of marriage 'irks' her
Jada Pinkett Smith discussing polyamory on "Red Table Talk."Red Table Talk/Facebook

When asked to share her thoughts on marriage, Smith said she was primarily against it

Smith said she would consider the union only if there was a common purpose.

"The history of marriage really irks me, just the history of marriage as a whole and what it has represented over the years for women in particular," she said.

Smith added: "I feel like the only way that I would get married is, let's say me and my partner or partners wants to help people and we need to put our finances together to make that vision happen. That's the only way I could see myself getting married."

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"There has to be a purpose beyond, 'I think you're cute,'" she added.

After speaking with guests on "Red Table Talk" who practice polyamory, Smith said: "I feel so excited and seen because I've been studying polyamory for a really long time, and I just want to show that there is so much here to be mined and to be uncovered."

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