People giving wedding speeches will devote most of their remarks to the person in the couple they know best, White said.
But somewhere in the speech, White added, there should be at least a mention of the other person.
If the speech-giver is solely focused on their person, he said it could mean one of two things. "One, they don't like the person," he said. "They are going by the old mantra of if you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all. Or two, they don't know the other person enough."
"What you want to see is positive things being said about the other person and how they represent themselves in your person's life," he said."
Friends and family can be better judges of whether a relationship will last than the people actually in the relationship.
White said he likes to refer to friends and family of his clients as their "love jury" because they can help individuals "have all of the perspectives" they need to make "the most informed decisions" about their romantic lives.