During an episode of the podcast "She Wants More," the woman said she joined Ashley Madison after years of sexual boredom with her husband.
According to the woman, who used Nikki as a pseudonym to protect her identity, she's still loves her husband of 15 years. Before joining Ashley Madison, Nikki tried to be more adventurous with him during sex, asking to have her hair pulled or butt spanked.
Still, the sex was lackluster, Nikki said. It seemed like her husband was disinterested in improving their intimacy, so she made an Ashley Madison account and was met with a "torrential downpour of potential men," she said.
Her solution? An Excel spreadsheet outlining each man's screen name, attractiveness rating, consistency in responding to her messages, and his ability to listen and get to know her through conversation.
Then, Nikki created an untraceable Google Voice number and WhatsApp for texting and screened the men. She verified their identities with video calls, choosing 10 to meet for in-person dates.
Nikki said the man she ultimately picked for her first affair fulfilled fantasies she'd had for "aggressive" sex.
"I picked the best overall based on our chemistry, the quality of person I believed him to be, what he had to offer the affair. And he was really respectful, not only of me, but of my process," Nikki told "She Wants More" podcast host Jo Piazza.