Sarah Bahbah
Levine breaks down the four main attachment styles in "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love."
People who have anxious attachment styles often worry about being too needy or overwhelming for their partner. They fear their partners or loved ones will leave them one day and therefore develop anxiety around their relationships, Insider previously reported. They also become attached to their partner's potential, instead of who they are in the present.
People can also have avoidant attachment, which means they steer clear of relationship conflict or closeness as a way to protect themselves from feeling unsafe, inadequate, or overwhelmed.
Secure attachment, which is the goal, is often gained through therapy and self-work. People with secure attachment styles meet their partners where they're at, communicate their needs, and also value independence in their relationships.
"I literally cried because I was in so much denial that I had an anxious attachment style. I was mortified that I wasted so much time chasing avoidants in my life," said Bahbah. "I feel like I could have saved myself from a lot of heartbreak."